Positive Vibes with Positive People

One of my best friends, who I have known forever, just had a baby.  The other day, we were taking a walk, and while she pushed her adorable infant in the stroller  she expressed her frustration with losing the post-partum weight.  She immediately began putting herself down and commenting on how awful she looked. On how her stomach would never go back to the way it was before.  That she felt fat and doughy.  She also felt stressed about the balance of dieting to losing the weight, but making sure she was eating enough to continue breast feeding.  I stopped her halfway through the conversation and told her how incredible she looks.  That to me, she looks absolutely better than before she had the baby!
​Whether you just had a baby, or not- why is it that as women we immediately go to the negative head space, and don’t congratulate ourselves on what we have DONE, instead of what we HAVE NOT?  All she could see was the changes she didn’t like, not that she had just carried a baby for nine months, given birth, and was nurturing this child while only getting four hours of sleep a night. 

Connection Between Stress and Our Self Reflection:
 I started thinking about how as women we have so much on our plates.  Managing the everyday balance between work, family, and  still taking time to nurture our own souls.  Stress and pressure can cause some warped reflections when we look in the mirror. The result of this is having a negative self-image, and only focusing on the things we don’t like about ourselves.  Even writing this, it is easy for me to be reflective, but if I’m honest…I completely focus on the negative parts of myself too.  
There is a lot to be said about having a tribe, a squad, a ride or die. No matter what you call it... these people can be special lights in our life when we are surrounded by nothing but our own darkness.
But not all of us are fortunate to have a person who builds us up when we feel small.  Often, relationships between women can be toxic, superficial, and even competitive.  I would guess that at some point we all have had a friend who puts us down to lessen their own insecurities.  This is absolutely the worst kind of relationship, and in order to be the best version of ourselves we need to take a step back and ask ourselves if our friendships are healthy.  So what can we do feel empowered and confident?
Ring in the Positivity:

• Surround ourselves with people who truly have our best interests at heart. One way to do this is to join the Haute View Boudoir's VIP Group.  It is a group of incredibly supportive, positive women who believe in empowering other women!!! It is fun and full of positive support!!!!
• Flush the negativity and drama down the toilet.
• Get rid of the friend who is me, me, me all the time.
• Unfollow “friends” on social media if they love to celebrate the negative.
• Find a friend who challenges you to be the best version of you.
• Take on new experiences.
• Consider booking a boudoir session with your bestie!  They can pump you up and offer words of encouragement about how beautiful and amazing you are!  Plus, it is an opportunity to relax and feel pampered while having fun!

 

---