You’ve booked your boudoir session and are super psyched about it. You can’t wait to feel like an absolute goddess and be seriously pampered by our hair and make-up team for the day. You are looking forward to sipping on a mimosa and jamming out to your favorite playlist. Sometimes, clients know exactly the looks and outfits that they want and even share their Pinterest vision boards with me. But other times, clients have no idea the look they are going for and can feel overwhelmed with all the details. The clothes, the hair, the poses, and the makeup. Have no fear, I'm here to help guide you through everything!
When it comes to make-up, there are a lot of looks to choose from, but these are the three I recommend for boudoir.
Enhanced Natural Beauty:
If the look you are going for is still looking like you, but an enhanced version—this makeup look is ideal. The camera tends to eat up color, so you will be wearing more makeup than usual. Try a matte natural or nude lip color. Maybe some nude eyes, with fake lashes to help make them pop. After your makeup is finished you will have bright eyes and more of a neutral lip, but you will feel glammed up and beautiful!
Sexy and Dramatic Vixen:
This is your look if you really want to transform yourself into the ultimate glam girl. Maybe you are thinking old Hollywood, retro pin up. Sultry, smoldering, dramatic eyes, and a sexy red lip? Hello beautiful! This look really plays up your eyes, which is perfect because they are the focal point to create so many stunning images.
The Girl Who Wants to Try it All:
Stuck between the different looks? Want to be bold and glamorous, but the sexy and dramatic look is too much for you? Especially when you’ve never done anything like this before. How about somewhere in the middle of these glam looks? Think similar to an enhanced natural look with a neutral lip, but then builds up be more dramatic with a bold lip. This is one of my favorite options as it gives your album a fun transition.
If you have other makeup ideas, feel free to bring them in. The ultimate goal is that you feel beautiful and sexy. I can’t wait to see your gorgeous self.
Maybe you’ve been checking out our website. Maybe you belong to our VIP Facebook group, or maybe your best friend showed you her fabulous, drop-dead gorgeous boudoir photos. You are curious about it.
It would be fun to get dolled up, to put aside the yoga pants and t-shirt and wear sexy lingerie. But it’s a lot of money and maybe you’re worried you won’t look stunningly beautiful. It is an investment in yourself, but one you won’t regret! You will feel and look beautiful. You will feel totally confident, and shockingly—you won’t look awkward at all, in fact, you will wish you had done this much sooner.
Should you take the plunge and book a boudoir session?
Yes, yes, and absolutely yes!!!!
But if I haven’t convinced you yet, there are plenty of reasons why boudoir is definitely for you:
Whether it’s your first anniversary or thirteenth, a boudoir photo album or canvas will make the perfect anniversary gift for your spouse. I can’t possibly think of a better way to spice up things in the bedroom and rekindle your love and passion than images of you looking stunning and super confident. Make him fall in love with you all over again!
Maybe you are getting married in a few months? Boudoir makes a wonderful wedding present for your honey, but also is a great way to celebrate this milestone in your life before you say “I do”. Maybe you are thinking of having a baby soon. Boudoir is a way to celebrate your sexiness before you prepare for motherhood and embrace a whole new kind of sexy. Starting a new job or going through a divorce, or even just newly single? Sure, boudoir is about feeling beautiful, but even more-so, it’s about celebrating the transitions in your life and feeling confident about who you are on the inside and outside.
Weight Loss Journey:
Boudoir is for every body type, regardless of your body size. I truly, in my heart of hearts, believe each and every body type is sexy and beautiful. But if you’ve just gone through a weight loss journey is something to honor your journey. Boudoir is an opportunity to show how far you’ve come and to celebrate your success. It’s an incredible confidence booster to show off that sexy woman that maybe has been hiding for a while.
This is by far my favorite reason for boudoir! We are crazy-busy, badass women, who conquer the world each and every day. But a lot of the times, our needs tend to come last. It can be overwhelming working, taking care of all the people in our lives—it is oh-so easy to put ourselves last. You are beautiful and sexy and deserve to be pampered.
So, what are you waiting for? Let me create the perfect gift for your spouse, boyfriend, or significant other—or maybe just for you. Every woman deserves to feel like the goddess she is. You won’t regret this experience.
Boudoir changes lives for the better, but many women still feel cautious about the boudoir experience. You may worry that you can’t pull off being sexy, or that it’s too much money for just some professional photos. It could be that you haven’t lost the ten pounds you keep telling yourself that you would before you do boudoir. Whatever your reason may be, all my convincing may not make you feel any less vulnerable about boudoir. But maybe hearing a real person’s experience would enlighten you about boudoir so that you can see for yourself just how beautiful, sexy, and confident it will make you not just feel, but actually be.
This particular client is like so many women I know. Heck, sometimes she’s me too! She is a wife, mother to three kiddos and two fur babies. Not only is she super mom, but also works full time from home. Like so many women, she is always on the go! What I connect to from her story so much is how busy her life is and wanting some much needed “me time.” While the boudoir was originally a b-day gift for her husband, it ended up being a much-needed confident booster. “I wanted to do this so I can be my own hype girl because somehow I lost her along the way.”
She dove in headfirst, her vision for the session was an enhanced natural makeup look, incorporating her hubby’s favorite team with some Braves jerseys, and finish off with a tasteful bodyscape. She said, “After the first picture it was like I found myself. I just felt so good about myself for the first time in a long time.”
It’s moments like these that just make me smile. Not only do I get to take beautiful pictures, but I get to help people find their inner and outer goddess once again. I hope you take the plunge; I can’t wait to watch you shine.
As you can imagine the one area that makes women the most nervous about doing a boudoir session is: What to Wear.
It’s definitely the subject I get asked the most questions about, but don’t worry I am here to help! I send all my clients helpful guides about wear to shop, how to pick pieces for their body type, and even send links to my favorite pieces. But even better, I have a full client closet of beautiful outfits I’ve collected over the years in a variety of shapes, colors, modesty levels, and sizes XS-6X.
If you need a few ideas to get the ball rolling, here are my (and my clients) 3 favorite looks:
My personal favorite is to incorporate each of these looks in this order, so your final album tells a little story (and if it’s for a gift…..leaves their jaw on the floor).
Want to know more about our Boudoir experience? Let’s set-up a time to chat and I would love to answer any questions you have!
Boudoir sessions aren’t just for women. They are great for couples as well! An experience like this with the love of your life will definitely be something you will never forget. And the images you will end up with will for sure be cherished forever. These types of images not only show the type of bond and love you have physically, but emotionally as well.
Another great thing about couples boudoir sessions is they are great for all personalities!
Let’s assume that you and your significant other is more of the shy type when it comes to PDA. Maybe things get hot in the bedroom, but you would rather keep that part of your relationship private? The beauty of having images like these of yourselves is that you can step a little out of your comfort zone and yet still keep them private. No one other than the two of you have to ever see them or that side of you. It would be like your best kept secret! After all, the only other person that will see them or that side of you is your trusted photographer.
Also, this is great for women who are too intimidated to do a boudoir session. Some women simply are not comfortable letting themselves be vulnerable with their bodies in front of a complete stranger. And that is totally understandable! So having your partner with you during the process would help ease those insecurities and help you let down your guard more. Same thing as moral support basically. Who knows? Maybe this will ease you into boudoir sessions and give you the confidence to do one solo again in the future. Once you see that the experience isn’t so bad after all while having your partner there to help ease your fears, you would feel a lot more confident doing it again in the future.
Now let’s assume that you are a very outgoing couple who is not afraid of PDA and letting everyone see the physical attraction you have with one another. This is PERFECT for couples like you! You will be comfortable in front of the camera and are guaranteed having a good time doing what you do best, giving your partner physical love and affection. And the best part is that you will have images to enjoy and document the whole experience for years to come.
Lastly, almost all relationships go through waves occasionally where their sex life just isn’t what it used to be. Whether it be working different schedules or just long hours in general, kids to take care of and take back and forth to soccer games, etc., or just simply the fact that the spark has seemed to fizzle in the bedroom. A couples boudoir session could just be the key to light that spark back up! It will allow you to take some time to doing something for yourselves as a couple to remind you of that physical bond and attraction you once had. The experience is so unique and fun that you are sure not to regret it. And it could benefit your sex life so much!
Whether you just want to add that extra spark back in the bedroom, or just want to have a little fun while every moment of it is frozen in time by that camera, a couples boudoir session may be just what you need. Not only that, it will allow you to physically see the bond that you share from another point of view. You know what it FEELS like being with your partner and interacting with physical affection. But it is a really awesome thing to be able to SEE the bond through images. It will make you realize just damn hot you are as a couple!
I know what you may be thinking. “Is this a real thing??” The answer to that is, ABSOLUTELY! Is your body in the “ideal” perfect shape? No. But in my opinion, the fact that you are caring a human inside of you does in fact mean that it IS in the perfect shape! Women were built for doing this. This is one thing that we can do that no man can. And it is a beautiful, beautiful thing!
I hear a lot of women who complain how miserable they are when they are full term or how anxious they are to get their body back to normal. Then after the baby is born most seem to actually miss their pregnant body. I think pregnancy affects our hormones and just health in general (nausea, back aches, heartburn, etc.) so much that we don’t even realize what a beautiful thing it is and how beautiful our bodies are.
Every extra pound of weight and every extra curve we gain just solidifies how physically strong we are for being capable of doing something so miraculous. We should try to make some time to embrace the beauty of the process and remind ourselves of just how badass we, as women, are.
A maternity boudoir session is a FABULOUS way to do this! Think about it this way. Ignore the fact that you have extra weight on your body. Focus on the benefits of pregnancy when it comes to your body. For starters, those breasts are filled out nicely and perfectly shaped. Not only that, pre-natal vitamins are GREAT for hair and nails, so they are likely on point. And everyone knows that pregnant women just have that certain glow about them. And lastly, that baby belly! It is such a beautiful thing that will not last forever. This is the perfect combination for a maternity boudoir session!
You can be a mom-to-be and still be sexy! Not only will a session like this give you a confidence boost on those days you are just tired of that body and want it to be over with. But it is also a wonderful way to get gorgeous images of such a special time in your life. It will remind you of how strong you are. It will remind you of the bond that you were making with that child before they even arrived. And that is only something only YOU can do!
Do yourself a favor and take some time during that long pregnancy and treat yourself to a unique experience to get some images that you will be sure to cherish for a lifetime!
The best way to rid yourself of nerves before an event that makes you anxious is to be totally prepared. If your boudoir photo shoot has you feeling a little intimidated, you can rest easy knowing your boudoir experience is going to be a fabulous one. Following just a few simple tips to prepare for your shoot will have you feeling glamorous and confident!
Haircuts and Waxing
In the week leading up to your appointment, make sure you do all the things that make you feel the most confident about your appearance. If you like a fresh haircut, a root touch up, or an eyebrow wax be sure to schedule these things about a week before your photo shoot. This gives you time to adjust any inconsistencies or mistakes in your hair cut before the big day. If you're planning to have any other waxing done, make sure you do this several days before your shoot to eliminate any lingering redness.
Test Out Your Accessories
Trying to wrap a string of pearls around your neck sexily for the first time can feel awkward and, even silly. Play around with what accessories you are planning to bring ahead of time to see how they feel in your hands and what you feel comfortable doing. Jewelry, shoes, hairpiece, and hats are all great ideas to test out.
Plenty of water in the days leading up to your shoot will leave your skin with a healthy, happy, glow. Try to avoid things that will dehydrate your skin like coffee and alcohol.
Moisturize your skin, get plenty of sleep and eat a healthy breakfast. Doing these things as part of your morning routine will make you feel ready to tackle anything, even your boudoir shoot.
Pick Out Your Wardrobe
Decide what you're going to wear at your shoot, but also what you will wear to your shoot. You'll want loose-fitting clothing to wear to your appointment, so you don't have any indentations from the elastic on your skin when it comes time for your photos. (This means AVOID wearing socks to your appointment!)
Pick things to wear for the photos that make you feel sexy. This doesn't necessarily mean you need all lingerie either. Think about how you feel in your favorite pair of jeans, your best bra, your highest heels. What makes you feel amazing?
Pack Your Bag
Get everything ready a few days before your appointment. This will help you to have time to remember everything you might have missed. Another good idea is to pack extra of everything. You'd had to arrive only to realize you had a run in your only pair of stockings.
Get To Know Your Photographer
And finally, one of the most important things you should do prior to your session is to communicate all your fears, anxieties, and hang-ups with me ahead of time. When communicating prior to your session, we will discuss everything. You'll let me know what kind of images you like, what parts of your body you think are the most beautiful, and what types of poses you'd want to capture among other things. The more you communicate, the more comfortable you will feel and the better your images will turn out! We are in this together!
Many women have concerns and fears when trying to decide whether or not to book a boudoir session. These fears are very common and unfortunately, cause many women to miss out on this amazing experience. One of the things boudoir photographers hear most from boudoir clients after all is said and done is, “Every woman should experience this at least once in their lifetime!” They also get many repeat clients because after their first session, they have put those fears and concerns to rest.
Let’s look at some of the most common concerns that I hear from girls who feel a little skeptical and let’s put those fears to rest!
“I am not comfortable with my flaws.”
Let’s face it, we all have flaws! Not a single one of us is perfect. There is no such thing as too heavy, too thin, too pale, too dark, too many stretch marks, etc. Our flaws are what makes us unique. And you are ALL equally beautiful! I have flaws myself, and I can assure that I am that last one to judge any female for anything they see as a flaw. I see you as a strong badass woman who is gorgeous in her own way. I see you as a client therefore, I will go above and beyond to listen to you and help guide you the whole process while focusing on your best assets.
“I won’t know how to pose properly.”
Listen up ladies! As a professional boudoir photographer, I do my research. You do not need to know how to pose, it’s my job to pose you! I will direct you through the whole process all the way down to the way you tilt your head and where to place your hand. I will actually demonstrate the poses with you and physically move your hands, arms, legs, etc. if needed. It is a team effort and we are in this together. All you need to do is show up and let me handle the rest. You may come into the session feeling a little stiff and awkward but, gradually you will become more and more comfortable with each pose. You do not need to be a professional model to have a boudoir session!
“I’m afraid I won’t like the photos of myself.”
This concern usually stems from the above two concerns. Being afraid that your flaws and inability to know how to properly pose will ruin your images. No one wants to look awkward, uncomfortable, or have their flaws put on display and captured on camera. I take great pride in my services and work. I want you to look beautiful and FEEL beautiful when you see your photos! I want you to be satisfied and enjoy your experience. And that’s why I will work tentatively with you to make sure we get the perfect poses and expressions that highlight everything beautiful about you!
A boudoir session is such a wonderful experience! They allow you to see yourself in a way that maybe you refuse to yourself, which is beautiful, sensual and just plain awesome! I want my clients to be pleased and blown away when they see their images and be proud that they decided to go through with it. Please do not let these common fears and concerns from having this experience yourself. You will NOT regret it!
There are many times I have been asked what are best things to wear for boudoir photo session? In case you are unaware, there are many great items you can choose right out of your own closet. Not every item needs to be lingerie.
Choose at least one bra and panty set. Be sure to try on items to make sure they have a proper fit before your session. You may still have some lingerie from years ago that you just have not thrown out because it is still perfectly good…however, since you have not worn it in years, it may not fit the same. You could have either gained or lost a few pounds since then.
Bra tip: If you are a B or smaller find a bra that has lace around the top of the cup. It will make you look a whole size bigger in photos.
SOMETHING OF HIS
Bring something that belongs to your guy. One of his button-up shirts or even one of his ties are good options. If you or your guy are sports fans wear a sports jersey with some knee high socks. You could even take it a step further and order his favorite team jersey with your name on it or with some other type of phrase that fits the session. Be creative. The more you put into it, the more he will be blown away
THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX
Have fun with your outfit choices and jewelry. (yes, don’t forget jewelry, more on that in a minute) You can choose bright colors and even be super wild by wearing mismatched bra and panties. Wear your favorite pair of cowgirl boots and cowgirl hat or if you think your guy would love you in a nurse’s outfit – go for it! Try out something totally off the wall and fun! It can make for a fun and creative photo
IN THE CLOSET
Look through your closet for a see through or lace blouse, a soft sweater you can pull off your shoulders, a vest or sleeveless sweater. Any unique or cropped tops can be cute with panties too.
ALL ABOUT THE GIRLS
If you are smaller then a C cup be sure to bring the kind of bustier that has built in cups. (usually a corset does not have cups but I have seen a few bustiers without cups too). The bustiers without can make you look flat chested and we don’t want that!
LEGS, LEGS AND MORE LEGS
Almost every woman brings fishnets and/or thigh highs to her session. My number one suggestion is if you plan to wear them with a garter belt, buy the kind without the plastic stay ups. If you plan to not wear a garter then the plastic stay ups are a must.
Each client has her own reason for wanting to pose for a boudoir session. And every now and then I get a client who hires me, and she is doing the shoot purely for her own pleasure. She wants to have the photos for her own appreciation of who she is, right now, at this special point in her life-whatever that may be. I love shooting those sessions.
More often than not, though, my clients are looking to gift their photos to someone special in their lives. These days you can get pretty creative with how you do it. Here are some creative ways to gift your boudoir photos.
The fantastic thing about photo albums or photo books, is that, no longer are they boring, generic covers with the peel-back plastic coating. These days, photo albums are highly customizable and can be made for any occasion. You can add a favorite quote or song lyric, perhaps a meaningful poem or even your wedding vows. You can even purchase smaller versions for the traveling business guy in your life. Give it to your love while wearing one of the outfits from the shoot and let him unwrap you!
Canvas or Metal Prints
This one isn’t exactly revolutionary in the world of photo display, but it sure looks good. This needs to be a photo that you want to proudly display. It also should be one that you don’t mind the occasional person who you’ve allowed to enter your bedroom/closet/master bath see. Because, eventually, someone will, and it’s not worth feeling embarrassed. Canvas and metal prints are great and look fantastic printed as sets of two or so and comes in a variety of sizes.
Custom Boudoir Phone App
The ease of access to your boudoir photos on your own private app makes viewing your images a breeze! This can be loaded your partner's phone and they can look at your sexy photos anytime they want!
Like I said before, guys are terrible at printing photos, so do it yourself. Matted silk prints give the photos that extra “umph” of quality. Keep a collection in a luxurious keepsake box that you love to display or can be pulled out on a whim. Even better, have a few framed in a portfolio mat and set them out on his nightstand occasionally, for the reminder of how beautiful you are and how lucky he is. The two of you knowing what is inside the keepsake box, while having it be unbeknown to others feels a little secretive and sultry.
Consider the Source
My last suggestion is to consider who it is you are giving this gift to. If they are very conservative and would blush at the thought of anyone seeing your photo, maybe the large metal print isn’t the best choice. If they (and you) couldn’t be more proud, then post that baby up on the wall! Whatever you decide, they’re going to love it. Save the ties and button-ups for that promotion gift and do something a little saucy!
Brittany is the camera, heart, and soul behind Haute View Boudoir in Chattanooga, TN. Her mission is to empower women to feel confident and beautiful in their own skin.