One of my best friends, who I have known forever, just had a baby. The other day, we were taking a walk, and while she pushed her adorable infant in the stroller she expressed her frustration with losing the post-partum weight. She immediately began putting herself down and commenting on how awful she looked. On how her stomach would never go back to the way it was before. That she felt fat and doughy. She also felt stressed about the balance of dieting to losing the weight, but making sure she was eating enough to continue breast feeding. I stopped her halfway through the conversation and told her how incredible she looks. That to me, she looks absolutely better than before she had the baby!
Whether you just had a baby, or not- why is it that as women we immediately go to the negative head space, and don’t congratulate ourselves on what we have DONE, instead of what we HAVE NOT? All she could see was the changes she didn’t like, not that she had just carried a baby for nine months, given birth, and was nurturing this child while only getting four hours of sleep a night.
Connection Between Stress and Our Self Reflection:
I started thinking about how as women we have so much on our plates. Managing the everyday balance between work, family, and still taking time to nurture our own souls. Stress and pressure can cause some warped reflections when we look in the mirror. The result of this is having a negative self-image, and only focusing on the things we don’t like about ourselves. Even writing this, it is easy for me to be reflective, but if I’m honest…I completely focus on the negative parts of myself too.
There is a lot to be said about having a tribe, a squad, a ride or die. No matter what you call it... these people can be special lights in our life when we are surrounded by nothing but our own darkness.
But not all of us are fortunate to have a person who builds us up when we feel small. Often, relationships between women can be toxic, superficial, and even competitive. I would guess that at some point we all have had a friend who puts us down to lessen their own insecurities. This is absolutely the worst kind of relationship, and in order to be the best version of ourselves we need to take a step back and ask ourselves if our friendships are healthy. So what can we do feel empowered and confident?
Ring in the Positivity:
It makes an incredible gift because your spouse will be able to cherish and remember your special gift forever. They also will be able to forever hold onto how confident and sexy you looked on that day. For better, or worse…even when you are wearing sweatpants and have bed head, they still think you look beautiful. Imagine, then, how incredible a photo book of you or a canvas print of you would be?
But… It's a Little out of my Comfort Zone...
Listen, most women don’t think they would be comfortable. But once the experience is happening you will be shocked at how empowered and confident you feel. The session includes:
Here is what one client said about her boudoir experience, “ "Obviously I struggle with self-image issues (as we all do), so that’s what started with me wanting to do boudoir. Especially with surgery having scars, I became really vulnerable about my scars. This has helped me see way past that and truly feel confident about myself.
The Boudoir Experience was INCREDIBLE! To me, it was about women empowerment. Self-love. Not only did you help me feel great that day, but you helped me through every single step. You are absolutely so humble and nice. You’re funny and genuine. You know exactly what to say. I questioned some of the poses in the moment... those ended up being some of my favorites! I honestly can’t imagine doing this with anyone else! Through my experience, I can help others. It’s a great feeling."
Feel incredibly beautiful and confident for your wedding and consider giving your spouse a gift they will never forget through bridal boudoir!
A Mother’s Job is Never Done:
Let’s face it, moms work really, really, really hard. I could probably add several more really’s to drive that point home. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom- the work never ends.
While being a mother IS the greatest gift, we often don’t take the time to do things for ourselves, or practice self-care. Let’s change that this spring…Mother’s Day is just around the corner. It is May 9th to be exact. So, we have less than a month to figure out the perfect gift to give mom, or the perfect gift to tell our kids/spouse/significant other to give mom! Lol.
If You are the Mom:
How do you want your special day to be? What gifts have you gotten in the past that were big winners, and which gifts were maybe not so great? Like, the time my kids got me a paper shredder…yay, Happy Mother’s Day to me. Or the time I got coupons for free backrubs and to clean the bathrooms. Pretty sure there ended up being no back rubs, and a still dirty bathroom. On Mother’s Day you deserve to do something for yourself that allows you to rest, feel pampered, and recharged to continue to be the incredible mom you are!
If You are a Daughter or Son:
Think back to all the things your mother does to make sure you are living your best life. Being a mother, often requires us to be self-less and to put the needs of our children first. Sometimes, as mothers we can lose ourselves in the process. Doesn’t your mother deserve to relax and take time for herself? To feel like the strong, confident woman that she truly is?
If You are a Spouse or Partner:
No matter how old your spouse or partner is motherhood is emotionally, physically, and mentally draining. Whether your significant other just had a baby, and they are not quite feeling back to being themselves, or they had one twenty years ago…they deserve to feel beautiful and invigorated on their special day. Gifts should be personalized and unique, which is exactly what this gift will be.
Because Mother’s Day is a celebration of mothers! The boudoir experience involves, firstly, being pampered. Who doesn’t want a Mother’s Day Makeover??? You will experience a hair and makeup makeover and feel like a newer, sexier version of yourself. You will get to sit in a chair, listen to your favorite music…talk if you want to while being pampered, or just enjoy the peaceful time alone and take it all in. You can kick back and relax with a mimosa, or a beverage of your choosing. Not to mention you get to be styled and pick out sexy lingerie that fits your specific style and comfort level. Whether you want to look like old Hollywood glamor, or wear something more sporty or simply classic…the choice is yours. I am here to help you find your vision, and make you feel beautiful and at ease. Once you are comfortable, and glammed up I will shoot your boudoir session. Many women feel uncomfortable because they may not naturally know how to pose. Don’t let this deter you from experiencing a fantastic Mother’s Day! I will be in the hot seat showing you how to pose, and I promise you won’t feel silly or stupid.
Celebration of the Mom Bod:
Mothers are strong, fierce, beautiful women. Your body deserves to be celebrated. Whether you gave birth, adopted, or are a step-mother, whatever your situation is…your body has changed through time and the moments we experience as mothers. Celebrate those changes. We all have days where we feel not our best. We feel like we’ve gained weight, aged, lost elements of our youth… boudoir is an opportunity to take back that negativity, and feel empowered. It isn’t a magic pill, but boudoir will leave you feeling confidently fantastic. You will be relaxed, and remember this Mother’s Day forever.
Remembering and Cherishing the Experience:
So not only do you get relax, be styled and feel like a glamorous supermodel, but there are also options for those of you who want to remember and keep the experience forever. Following your personal viewing party, we will also discuss ordering options. There isn’t pressure to order, but for those who would like to continue the experience there are luxury albums, wall art, and many more gifts/memorabilia options to consider.
What Does the Experience Include, Again?
Here is the rundown to a fantastic Mother’s Day gift, it includes:
Moms, you deserve to be celebrated and have a day that is just meant for you. Boudoir celebrates the mom bod, and gives you the experience of feeling beautiful and empowered. Forget the flowers, breakfast in bed- boudoir is something unique, individualized, and you will never forget how it made you feel!
Brittany is the camera, heart, and soul behind Haute View Boudoir in Chattanooga, TN. Her mission is to empower women to feel confident and beautiful in their own skin.